Janey Says: The Art To Christmas Day Etiquette

So, Christmas Day is nearly upon us and as much as we all want it to be a wonderful event for everyone, it takes a certain amount of good behaviour to make that happen.

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In my experience, both as a younger woman, and now moving forwards, I’ve found there is a certain art to making things as smooth as possible through the festivities. A certain etiquette; for the grown-up lady who has the wonderful advantage of not having to do a thing apart from being the charming charismatic guest.

This role is actually a vital one I believe – especially at Christmas.

I’m not quite there with all of this yet; Sure, I am grown up – but the rest is yet to happen!   I have had – as we all have – role models, and over the years have taken note of their behaviour.

As they’ve sort of been my mentors, I’ve – emerged (great way of making growing up sound more butterfly like don’t you think!) with a far greater understanding of what’s required, and why all women of all ages – but more as they age –  are just so fantastically brilliant.

Bringing everything to the party is what I’ve learned from these ladies.  Not in terms of material objects – although not one of them would arrive empty handed…there were always bottles of champagne and delicious chocolates; but more like being that wonderful person who looked amazing, and when walking into the room lightened even the most strained atmosphere.

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She is the person who keeps the whole conversation light when the family feud is about to break out – and is the one who talks…listened rather – to the ancient deaf uncle unconditionally!

She never minds climbing into a freezing car to go to watch the hundreds of carol concerts…Midnight mass – that sort of thing, and more importantly – she never takes sides!

Finally, she never, ever, no matter how difficult it is, criticises her host.  Not even with ‘suggestions’ or ‘helpful hints’.

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Etiquette is about many things – one of them being impartial and elegant in all matters, not just manners and how to hold a glass correctly.

My mother was one of these women which was why she was so adored not just by me – but by my children and all my friends.

She would laugh, and play all the stupid games.  She had hilarious stories of the past – and kept my children entertained endlessly with her terrible cheating at cards.

She instantly knew how to behave when a certain situation was brewing – and never arriving without a pair of rubber gloves should the need to disappear into the kitchen occur!

 

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