When menopause and midlife mayhem descends, it’s not uncommon to lose your libido as sex can become uncomfortable and painful and often women feel like they have been switched off from the waist downwards.
Gone are the days when you roll over in the mornings hoping your partner is in the mood for some fun.
Hormonal changes at the time of the menopause cause night sweats and insomnia, often resulting in a reduced libido, so instead of snuggling up for comfort and love you are only too pleased to be in your own space, busy throwing off the covers as the hot flushes take control of your body.
Excess weight, which often accumulates at midlife, makes you feel unattractive and lack of sleep leaves you feeling exhausted and stressed.
When you do manage to finally cool down and find the time, hoping you will stay cool long enough to engage in passion, you may be fearful that intercourse will be a nightmare, leaving you feeling sore instead of satisfied.
Often women feel like they have been switched off from the waist downwards
If this is you, it’s important to know you are not alone. It happens to so many of us at the menopause and in fact, I’ve conducted surveys and discovered that over 50% of menopausal women can’t have an orgasm and have a dry vagina.
For many women, this is the worst timing as they finally have more time with their partner with kids growing up and now, instead of feeling sexy, they are curled up on the edge of the bed not wanting to be touched because you’re afraid of what’s going to happen.
Progesterone also plays an important role in libido levels. However, during the menopause, levels of progesterone are reduced, resulting in loss of libido. Despite all the changes you may be experiencing, it is important to keep things in perspective.
50% of menopausal women can’t have an orgasm and have a dry vagina
The menopause need not be the end of life as you once knew it, but rather the beginning of a new phase that can be just as exciting and rewarding as your earlier years.
Your body may be changing, but you can still find ways to rekindle libido, keeping the spark alive. There is a great deal you can do to make this transition as smooth as possible with a little knowledge.
I’ve spent many years educating women how to beat menopause symptoms naturally, based on published medical research. I believe every woman can get through the symptoms of menopause, including midlife libido loss, by making a few diet and lifestyle changes.
Here’s how to do it.
- The main step you need to take is to start supplying your body with naturally occurring oestrogen through your diet and supplements.
- If you are very dehydrated, lubrication is going to become a problem for your body so you have to drink plenty of water.
- You should also consider taking sea buckthorn oil, Vitamin E, zinc and magnesium, coconut oil and Omega 7 Sea Buckthorn capsules to help alleviate vaginal dryness and discomfort.
- Lady Prelox, the natural remedy rich in pycnogenol from the French Pine bark, has been shown to increase libido significantly.
- Finally, although it can be hard, start having regular sex and spend plenty of time on foreplay to help vaginal lubrication.
Be assured, it is possible to get your hormones working normally again and resume a comfortable sexual relationship with a big smile on your face.
Maryon Stewart is a renowned healthcare expert specialising in PMS, Menopause and a pioneer in the field of non-drug medicine. Using her years of knowledge and expertise, she coaches women in understanding the information, tools and techniques needed to get well, to the point that they are able to be completely symptom-free.
Her personalised and targeted programmes have a 91% success rate in alleviating menopausal symptoms within five months. These results prove that a more personalised approach to treating menopausal symptoms rather than a one-size-fits-all approach brings effective remedy.
Since establishing the Women’s Nutritional Advisory Service in the mid-80s Maryon has become an established author having written 26 popular self-help books, co-written a series of medical papers and produced regular columns for numerous daily newspapers and magazines.
Her numerous awards include being voted the 51st most influential woman in Great Britain in a Good Housekeeping survey in the late 90s, voted one of the 5 most inspirational women in the UK by Fabulous Magazine in December 2009 and in summer 2010 she won the Addidi
Following the death of her 21-year-old daughter Hester, Maryon established a charity, The Angelus Foundation which has successfully campaigned to raise awareness about the dangers of legal highs and implement changes in the law to outlaw retail sales of these substances in the UK.
This year Maryon has launched a number of new projects beginning with the six week ‘Cruising Through The Menopause’ Boot Camp, Beat Menopause The Natural Way eBook & Video Series and Maryon’s Stewart’s Masterclass while returning as a women’s health columnist for the Daily Mail and Mail Online.
In between projects, Maryon conducted a survey of 1,000 menopausal women that revealed the hidden cost of menopause.