There’s this idea that older women, particularly those whose children have left the nest are all about the occasional weekend away with the girls, but mainly winding down or praying for grandbabies to keep them busy.
We know that this isn’t the case at all, so it was delightful to be able to sit down with ‘Real Housewife’ Seema Malhotra, to talk business, bitchiness and being in the public eye – and most certainly nothing about winding down!
Hi Seema, it’s lovely to meet you! You’re currently in Real Housewives of Cheshire, tell us how that came about?
I was approached to be in the first series, but it just wasn’t the right time due to business and personal reasons. I was actually at a charity event and ITV popped over and the rest is history!
You’re considered the ‘level-headed’ one – how hard is it to stay out of the arguments and drama?
I try to look at situations objectively and to not take things too seriously! I’m a really fun-loving person and I don’t like confrontations however I will always stand my ground when I’m passionate about something- particularly if it involves my family.
I think it’s really important to feel comfortable in your own skin and to love yourself.
You’re a successful businesswoman – does that ever impact on filming?
In terms of timing – definitely. I travel all over the world with work and the schedule can sometimes clash. It can be a bit of a balancing act but we make it work! The production team are always really supportive and great for working with us all.
How do you prioritise everything you’ve got going on – are you a ‘women can have everything’ person or are you ‘I manage x,y and z and everything else falls on the not important list’?
I’ve got a fantastic team and support system that really does help me. I ‘m quite methodical and I’ve always had a knack to multi-task.
You’ve got a line of over 200 pieces with Forever Unique – and you always look amazing. How do you choose which dresses become part of the lineup?
It depends on my mood and we’re often sent themes for events. If we get sent an event idea, I automatically know what I’m going to select to wear to it. We have so many beautiful pieces here are Forever Unique so I’m really lucky- it’s like my walk-in wardrobe!
Lots of our readers share that they have lost their confidence and feel a bit lost when it comes to fashion – what advice would you give them to rediscover their ‘oomph’?
I think it’s really important to feel comfortable in your own skin and to love yourself. I would tell them to let themselves go and take a few risks. I think trying things that are out of your comfort zone does help and can be surprising confidence boost!
What do you think about style ‘rules’ for older women -are there any you follow yourself?
I personally at 46 want to still look modern, fresh, and I always dress to enhance my best features. My style is not boring because of my age (I still wear animal prints!!), I think if anything, it has become chic and I think as you get older you learn what your style is. I now really understand what shapes and styles work on my body shape.
I still like to follow certain trends, but I try to style it up in a ladylike way and I embrace that my body has changed and therefore wear figure flattering dresses. I want to say that comfort with your personal style is the chicest thing of all.
You are never too old to pursue a dream.
You’ve got two sons who are both grown up (or nearly) how has that changed things – did you struggle to let them go or are they still well and truly in the family nest?
We are a very close-knit family and the lads are like my best friends! When my boys moved out initially, it was devastating and so quiet at home. But once you see them become more independent and succeed, it makes you so proud. They’re now living back at home after taking time out to study and I love having them back. I don’t miss their untidiness though!
You’re known for jet-setting with work – how do you stay looking so fresh? What’s your travel beauty regime?
Comfort with your personal style is the chicest thing of all
I can’t go anywhere without my Elizabeth Arden 8-hour cream. I travel around the world with work and it’s perfect for restoring the moisture in my lips. I also love Laura Mercier’s foundation primer which creates the best canvas for foundation and gives my skin a lovely healthy glow. It’s also amazing as a highlighter too!
What advice would you give to an older woman looking to make her name in the fashion business?
I would say to believe in yourself and absolutely go for it. You are never too old to pursue a dream. I would also tell them to set themselves a goal and do everything in your power to make it a reality. I truly believe that if you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything.
Favourite quote about getting older?
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream- C.S Lewis
Tune in to see Seema and the other housewives on Monday nights at 10 pm on ITVbe