Bravery means different things to different people.
For some it’s a big as stepping on-stage in front of thousands, saving lives or working under extreme conditions. For others, it’s smaller but no less valuable. Facing phobia’s, dating after a difficult breakup, applying for a new job.
Regardless of how visible your bravery, it’s impossible to deny that the desire to push ourselves out of our comfort zones and go against our instincts is part of what’s driven us forward as a species.
So why has it emerged that just 62 per cent of us consider ourselves to be brave?
Of course, bravery means more as we get older. It’s less about throwing ourselves into new careers, or off cliffs (although that’s certainly something you can do if you wish), more about breaking old habits, forcing ourselves to remain active and standing staunch in the face of ageism.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
Karen Crowley for Highland Spring, who are launching a ‘Brave by Nature’ campaign, shared her thoughts:
“In an increasingly busy world, something as simple as getting everything done on a to-do list, or still cycling to work even though it’s raining, can be seen as acts of bravery and leave them feeling like they have let nothing stand in the way of their day.
“We want to celebrate those who are ‘everyday brave’ and who, despite maybe having to step out of their comfort zone to do so, refuse to let things get in the way of achieving greatness.”
At Beyond Fabulous we support this – for instance Jane starting her TV career in her sixties could be deemed brave. There’s a lot to be said for comfort and safety we know – but when comfort means being stifled by routine, it’s definitely time for a change.
TOP 50 SIGNS YOU ARE A MODERN BRAVE
- Speaking up about your boss, a colleague’s or the school rep’s actions
- Giving a presentation at work
- Going on holiday on your own
- Sticking up for someone
- Standing up for yourself and your values
- Making the first move on a date
- Changing careers or retraining
- Trying something you’ve never done before i.e. a Zumba class/HIT
- Asking for help
- Quitting your job
- Owning up to a mistake
- Going out for a meal on your own
- Going into a pub on your own
- Disagreeing with your boss or colleague in a meeting
- Dating after a divorce or bad breakup
- Asking for a pay rise
- Voicing your opinion about something you’re passionate about
- Going to the cinema on your own
- Saying ‘no’ more
- Saying I’m sorry
- Breaking up with someone
- Going travelling
- Attending a job interview
- Admitting to your mates that you just don’t want to go to something you’re invited to instead of making up an excuse/bailing at the last minute
- Not holding in your emotions and letting loose
- Asking someone out on a date
- Confronting a troll online
- Being outspoken about politics
- Sending a risky email to the whole company
- Asking people to move down on the train
- Going to a new exercise class on your own
- Saying ‘yes’ more
- Asking for feedback
- Talking face to face rather than through technology
- Letting your child go out on their own for the first time
- Letting people go through the photos in your phone
- Getting a makeover or changing your look
- Flashing your lights at another car which has just pulled out on you
- Adding someone (as a friend) on social media after you’ve met
- Starting a new hobby from scratch
- Becoming more than friends
- Going out without makeup
- Starting the conversation first once you’ve got a match on a dating app
- Volunteering to help out with school events/trips
- Leaving your car with no parking ticket to do something quickly
- Wearing Lycra in public
- Swiping right on a dating app
- Not putting a filter on a selfie
- Crossing the road when the red man is showing
- Taking a sick day for a reason other than sickness
Want to try something new but struggling to find it in yourself? The website ‘Skills You Need’ advises you start small. Ask yourself the following:
- What am I afraid of? Is it the right thing to be afraid of? Should I be this afraid of it – or rationally, should I be less or more afraid?
- What harm can this thing actually do to me or others?
- What are the things that could happen as a result of my actions and/or inactions?
- What is the worst that could happen has a result of my actions and/or inactions?
- What are the risks to me and to others?
If you’re still struggling, try a hypnosis download on your phone – Mindifi is great for supporting various issues.
Take the quiz to find out how ‘everyday brave’ you are at www.bravebynature.uk